What constitutes a relationship? Relationships include marriages, dating partners, friendships, parent-child, siblings, and family members. With so many standards in our society; it is difficult to know what defines a healthy relationship. The foundation of all healthy relationships is built on love and respect. When these elements are present, both individuals are validated; and, the relationship evolves into a nurturing union.
Unhealthy relationships can only offer brokenness. One or both individuals endure pain and suffering. We compromise our emotional integrity when we hold on to relationships which produce only negative outcomes. For many individuals, the unanswered question is “why do we stay?” The simple fact is that once our fragile hearts are broken; we no longer possess the strength to identify and pursue our options. Our weakened state of mind creates reasons to accept dysfunction as an acceptable fate for our lives.
How do we move forward when we are emotionally wounded? There are a couple of viable options.
1. Avoid analyzing the reasons for the unhealthy status of the relationship. Trying to determine what led to the negative behaviors will either end in blaming yourself or a compromise to stay in the destructive relationship.
2. If possible, develop a plan to improve the conditions of the relationship-which requires a mutual agreement with the other individual-and may involve therapeutic intervention. However, your values must align in order to produce change.
3. If it is not possible to achieve harmony; then let go of guilt and fear, and exit the relationship.
You owe it to yourself to be in a loving and caring relationship.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8