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What Happens When the Door Closes and you are in the Storm?

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The brainchild of two Registered Nurses, ages 50 plus, who asked the question, “What happens when the door closes and you are in the storm?” we identified that we have specialized needs as women who are maturing through life. Historically, we have overcome many obstacles; but, now we are feeling quite overwhelmed with the present-unexpected life event.

When we perceive that we are overwhelmed; fear, worry, and anxiety escalate at disproportionate levels. As a result, we become spiritually disoriented, and gradually we become fixated on the closed-door. When we begin to communicate with God through prayer, we will realize that God has allowed the door or chapter in our lives to close. He is protecting us as only a Heavenly Father can do. As we draw closer to God, He will allow us to see his wonder plan for our lives-many open doors.

 

Fifty plus life-Is the Baby Boomer’s Work Ethic Out of Control?

“What are you doing for the holiday weekend? Oh, I haven’t really thought about it. I don’t know, I’m sure I will come up with something. Well, we are going out of town-will be back on Tuesday.” This is a conversation that I had with a friend who always manages to take mini trips. I thought about doing something for at least a minute, and then quickly put it out of my mind. However, as the day progressed, I realized that I really wanted to do something for the 3-day weekend. After some deep contemplation, I decided to plan a last minute after church luncheon. Several calls were made to friends who readily accepted my invite. I notified my husband that we would have company after church, and much to my surprise, he relayed that my idea was great.

On the big day, my friends arrived at staggered times. Much to my surprise, I was able to relax while the food was in the oven. As I smelled the aromas, I felt a warmth inside from the anticipation of dinner with friends. With the combination of food, great conversation, and a lot of laughter we had a memorable occasion. I begin to reminisce about the era of the 70’s when my house was filled with friends on a weekly basis. Yes, times were hard, but those were happier times. What happened? How had my life evolved to the point that my job consumed my life?

I became aware of an unbalanced work ethic in 2014. One of my younger co-workers asked me why I was always stressed. I responded that our job was very stressful, always meeting deadlines, and hearing constant complaints from our clients, it added up to stress. I was proud of my answer to this young millennial who had a carefree attitude. Her response gave me a reality check. I was told to think about the damage that I was causing to my mental and physical health. As I listened to her summation of the differences between the two generations, most of her explanation made sense. “Enjoy your job.” What did enjoyment have to do with my work ethic? I was not there to have fun. After all, my work performance was a serious issue.

As I reflect on our conversation, 2017 has enabled me to have a new meaning on a balanced work life. I deserve to have fun. Enjoyment of my career choice has enabled me to seek out different paths where I can utilize my skills, and still have a healthy attitude. My talents and hobbies are developing in a manner that I never expected. For years, I carried the burden of a tiresome work ethic, which left little time for enjoyment. My standards for work still include giving my best.  However, I have made the decision to incorporate the friends and activities that add to my happiness. I have embraced part of the Millennial’s mindset, and I can say with a smile, I finally have my work ethic under control.

 

 

Fifty plus life-Are you prepared?

For many years, I worked as a nurse in the field of Home Health. One of the mandated requirements for the agency was an up-to-date Emergency Preparedness Plan, for the patients who were confined to their homes. All personnel-clinical and nonclinical-had the responsibility of knowing the action plan if a disaster occurred. At the time of admission, patients were educated and informed of the necessary requirements of planned evacuation in order to receive healthcare services. Many individuals balked at the thought of leaving their homes. Although resistance was high, the patient eventually assisted the nursing staff in developing a personalized action plan for safety.
Developing a plan for unforeseen incidents such as natural disasters, and death can be very overwhelming. Many emotions present when an individual is forced to pre-plan for unpleasant circumstances. Some will choose to ignore the pending situation in disbelief or they will convince themselves that preparation can be easily accomplished if something happens. The recent disaster from Hurricane Harvey has given many of us a harsh reality check. The choice to be prepared or to face negative outcomes is the reality of unexpected life events. It is unrealistic to think that we can pre-plan every aspect of our lives; however, we should pay attention to the warnings of impending danger.
Being ready also applies to our spiritual status with God. Matthew 24:44 (NIV) tells us, “So you also must be ready, because the Son of Man will come at an hour when you do not expect him.” Every new day provides us with additional grace and mercies. Following God’s spiritual preparedness plan affords us the opportunity to have eternal life if we choose. I have a certain fondness for flowers. Many times, I will contemplate on their phenomenal beauty, and thank God, as I wonder what is in store for my future life in heaven. I encourage each of us to plan for the greatest life event-the Second Coming of Christ. Unlike life’s disasters or unforeseen events, we do not have to develop our spiritual preparedness plan. God has provided a fail proof spiritual preparedness plan for all who believe and obey. It is up to us to choose to accept his action plan for our lives.

Defeating Disappointment

I can remember when a Quality position that I really loved and was highly skilled in came to an abrupt end this year. Becoming successful involved working 12-hour days and constant planning to stay ahead; however, I didn’t mind, my clients were happy and I felt great. All was well until one of my clients requested that I check the statistics of relevant data that met Medicare criteria but was not reflected in the “Met” percentages. My research revealed the worst-case scenario. Although a team of three persons including myself was devoted to the process of reviewing the data, we did not have an Inter-Rater Reliability system in place to monitor the submission of the data. The team member assigned for the submission of said data had failed to comply with the mandated requirements.
As I reviewed and noted the 19th non-submission, I immediately notified the Manager and Client Liaison of the findings. The administrative decision of nondisclosure to the client prompted my decision of immediate resignation. I experienced many emotions during the two weeks that followed the end of my career. My tenure with the company that I envisioned leaving with the status of a retiree would never happen. I went through the stages of grief including shock and disbelief. The level of disappointment that I experienced was immeasurable. How could this have possibly happened after all of my hard work? As I share this experience, I can emphatically say that my decision to stand by my Christian ethical and moral values was one that I have never regretted.
In Jeremiah 29:11, God tells us, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” At the time of my disappointment, I did not recognize that God had other plans for my life or the compromise that I made for my celebrated success. During my employment, my health was gradually failing Fifty and Fighting the Fast Food Epidemic , due to inappropriate food choices, a work-life balance that was nonexistent, and a diminishing relationship with God. There are no easy methods to overcoming disappointment. Often we are encouraged to move on as if nothing happened. Express your disappointment: “I am disappointed and sad that things did not work out as I anticipated.” However, acknowledging to God that although you do not understand his will for your life, you are still willing to put your life in His hands, and that simple act of faith initiates the healing process.
Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. And I will be found…Jeremiah 29: 12-14