Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Philippians 4:8 NIV
There are many changes that have occurred in the six decades that I have been alive, some good and many not so good; however, one thing that has virtually disappeared is the giving and exchange of compliments among adults, especially women. In fact, the typical reaction of most recipients of a compliment is silence. Is the giving and cordial receiving of compliments part of a lost era or rules of etiquette that were never learned? Have we forgotten how to extend ourselves to make others feel good?
There are various possibilities as to why we have ceased to give positive and thoughtful praise to others; even so, the most logical explanation is that we possess a negative outlook.
Have you thought about the type of thoughts that dominate your mind and how those thoughts impact your way of life? Our thoughts dictate our behaviors and actions. If negative thoughts permeate your mind, then it is not possible to feel good about yourself or others.
How does negativity impact your relationship with God? It is not possible to really trust in God or to be thankful and possess joy when our thoughts and moods fluctuate according to our circumstances.
We are reminded to think on and possess thoughts which are excellent and praiseworthy. So, if the circumstances of life have shaped your character and you are a negative person then God has provided the answer for change. The transition of thinking altogether-lovely thoughts has many positive benefits with the most important is that your character is molded to prepare you for Eternal life.
God is in the business of changing our characters!
Start your journey by giving God positive complements everyday: Prayers of Thanksgiving, Praise and Worship with Songs and Uplifting Music and studying His Word to find out who He really is.
Identify your qualities and embrace positive thoughts about yourself. Begin to give yourself compliments on the small accomplishments that you make on a daily basis. This is a process that builds a positive self-image and self-esteem. God desires that we embrace the fact that He created us in his image, and we are “fearfully and wonderfully made.”
It is wonderful to live with a spirit of thanksgiving–a positive way of life emerges–your connection with God remains consistent, you begin to love yourself as God loves you, and you are able to readily extend gracious compliments to others.
It is a beautiful life and it wouldn’t be complete without you in it.
Prayer for today: Dear God, Thank you for all of the wonderful blessings in my life. Help me to appreciate your love, your grace, and your mercy. I ask for your guidance as I make the transition from negativity to a positive and thankful outlook on life. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.
Sonya Johnson Ruiz