Learning Silence

Focusing on Self-Improvement

You might think you are a very religious person. But if your tongue is out of control, you are fooling yourself. Your careless talk makes your offerings to God worthless. James 1:26 ERV

Do you remember the saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me?”

It was a child’s attempt to utilize a defensive technique to counteract and prevent showing the devastation from being the receiver of those terrible words. Reflect on your childhood, were you the giver or receiver of vicious words spoken from anger?

Fast forward many years later, we have become aware that misspoken words constitute bullying and emotional abuse. The words that we give and receive from others can build healthy self-esteems or destroy and produce brokenness.

In James, chapter 1, God commands us to listen more than we speak. Our tongue–possessing control or the lack of control–is a direct reflection of our relationship with God.

My dear brothers and sisters, always be more willing to listen than to speak. Keep control of your anger. Anger does not help you live the way God wants. So get rid of everything evil in your lives–every kind of wrong you do. Be humble and accept God’s teaching that is planted in your heart. This teaching can save you. James 1:19-21 ERV

There is no middle ground, gray area, or justification for disobeying the Word from God. It is a true domino effect when we sin with our spoken words: Anger and Vicious Words are a tag-team that produce wounds to others and reflect the evil characteristics that we possess.

Perform a thorough self-evaluation: Confess, repent, and ask God for victory over disobedience from an out-of-control tongue; it is only by His grace and mercy that we can overcome all of our sinful habits.

If you have wounded someone with angry words, or been the recipient of angry words, then Forgiveness is what God requires. Always remember, that we only have one opportunity to possess the godly character that is required for eternal life, and that is while we are alive and breathing.

I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

Prayer for today: Dear God, We are asking forgiveness for disobedience by possessing an out-of-control tongue and an ungodly character. It is our desire through your grace and mercy that we practice self-control in all aspects of our lives. We desire a character that reflects the Fruit of the Spirit and we know it is only possible by obeying you under all circumstances. We ask for your divine intervention to heal those that we have hurt and to help us to forgive and heal from those who have hurt us. We look forward to the day when we will live on a perfect earth. Until then we ask for the strength to change and to be more like you. We ask this prayer in the name of your worthy son, Jesus. Amen.

© Sonya Johnson Ruiz 2019

Author: steps2successwithsolutions

By profession, I am a Registered Nurse, with a passion for helping others overcome the obstacles in their lives. I am a writer of Devotionals, Romantic Poetry, and Research Articles. The recent development of Mentoring and launching as a Motivational Speaker has prompted me to address real-life issues for women from a spiritual perspective.