But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light. 1 Peter 2:9
In reading the Book of Leviticus, we become aware that God gave specific instructions to the Nation of Israel on every aspect of their lives. There was nothing left to chance or up to the imagination on the requirements for serving God. The people received instructions on their entire lifestyles that were easy to understand. From the beginning, God established strict guidelines that include boundaries for all Believers.
“I am the LORD, and I do not change. That is why you descendants of Jacob are not already destroyed. Malachi 3:6
Fast forward to the era that we live in, and many of us have disregarded the biblical instructions for our behaviors, our activities, the food we should eat, and the seventh-day Sabbath. We view the Old Testament scriptures as obsolete and non-applicable to the 21st Century. In fact, many churches proclaim that they are under the New Covenant and the New Testament. The significant change is that animal sacrifices are no longer required because of the sacrificial offering of the Lamb of God, Jesus Christ, who died for the remission of our sins, and is alive, serving as our Intercessor in the heavenly courts.
All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. 2 Timothy 3:16
The Word of God is not ambiguous–open to more than one interpretation or having a double meaning. God is clear in His instructions; yet, our modern lifestyles reflect that God left us with an uncertain path to follow. As believers, we face many issues that challenge the godly standards in the scriptures. In response, we have developed a mysterious gray area in the middle somewhere to satisfy our sinful desires. Our actions indicate that God did not leave us with scriptural guidelines to address modern-day dilemmas.
Currently, one of the most challenging dilemmas that we face is the loneliness of one. The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18. The original plan for humanity was the holy institution of marriage, children, and strong family ties. Sin entered, leaving brokenness of the heart from the destruction of marriages and families. The desire to remedy our loneliness, along with the desperation for a relationship, places us on the path of disobedience and Satan unleashes his diabolical plan.
Seeking a relationship falls into the gray area–the area that we have established. Yes, we acknowledge that God is aware of our circumstances; but, He has not answered our prayers for a husband or wife. So, we begin to help God by searching for the right one on dating sites, on chat lines, on social media, under the guise of “Christian dating sites.” Or we are motivated to join the gym, single clubs, or even begin to attend church with the ulterior motive to meet that particular person.
When we are weakened by our feelings, and begin to doubt God, Satan uses the tactics of Deception to give us quick and easy solutions. Remember Eve in the Garden of Eden! God loves us and will provide us with warnings that this is not His plan before we fall into temptation. It is our free will choice to obey and choose His way of escape or to compromise and make excuses to continue self-seeking pleasures of the world.
Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, with whom there is no change or shifting shadow. James 1:17
The Omniscient God is always aware of what we need and when we need it. If marriage is in His perfect will for our lives, we do not have to compromise the boundaries that He has established. We do not have to search for a husband or wife. Our perfect gifts come down from a Holy and unchanging God who does not use unholy avenues such as dating sites to bless us with who He has for us. Rely upon God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. Jeremiah 29:11,12
Prayer: Dear God, We ask forgiveness for doubting you and using ungodly methods to remedy our problems. You know our situations, and we will obediently rely on your plans for our lives. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
© Sonya Johnson Ruiz 2020