When I decided to pursue a nursing degree, the academic advisor provided needful information on the importance of making good grades. The key to successful learning was simple-possessing great study habits. Ten years after graduating as an LPN, the advisor strongly recommended that I take a non-credit refresher course on “Studying for Success,” which the College offered. Although I agreed, I was not happy that I had to pay for a class for which I would not receive college credits.
As I reflect on the advisor’s guidance, I am very grateful that I agreed to take the course. Gaining proper study skills has impacted my life in ways that I never thought imaginable. One of the most outstanding achievements that still brings a big smile to my face is that I was able to self-study for four months and successfully challenge one year of Anatomy and Physiology. Because I accepted guidance, I passed, and received full college credits.
There is a common thread that all humanity shares: We need help! God never intended for us to function as solitary units nurturing a mindset of self-reliance. Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” Genesis 1:26. God commanded Adam and Eve to “Be fruitful and multiply,” which was the first human family.
Marriage and family are two institutions created by God, so we would not be alone. God is love! He would never create the human race and abandon us, or leave us to fend for ourselves. Despite the satanic attack to destroy marriage and family, they are still standing strong as our societies’ foundations. It is up to us to embrace God’s original plan for our lives. Even if we disagree, we were created to be dependent on God and one another.
Living single for over 25 years presented many challenges that I could not resolve without guidance and help. Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. 1 Peter 5:7. Yes, I knew that God loved me because He always answered my prayers in the time of distress. But I felt a void in my life. Even though I attended church and enjoyed an active social experience, I found myself thinking, “Why did I move back to a large city in the Northeast?” God reminded me that I left behind my relationships because of the desire to make more money.
As a native Northeasterner, I was aware of the fast-paced, busy lifestyle, and every person for themselves mindset. I thrived off of self-reliance and total independence when I was younger. But as I matured into my late forties, I desired a closer relationship with friends and family. One evening, I presented my desire to relocate back to Upstate New York to God in prayer. I will answer them before they even call to me. While they are still talking about their needs, I will go ahead and answer their prayers! Isaiah 65:24
Within one week, I had a new job and a cozy apartment. I praised God with many hallelujahs and sang songs of thanksgiving. Turning in my two-week resignation, I sold my furniture and returned to family and friends who I shared a common bond with. What a great feeling to know that you are loved. The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” Jeremiah 31:3
Do you know who God is? God is love, and His love is unconditional. Beloved, let us love one another because love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love…1 John 4:7-8
Many individuals focus on the differences between human beings, which is counterproductive. Let’s change our mindset by focusing on the likenesses of one another. God created us in His image to be loved by himself and to be loved by others. All of humanity is bound together by love. God desires that our lives include love, which produces completeness, and a sense of well-being.
In 1 Corinthians 7, the Apostle Paul speaks of marriage and of being single. Although he was never married or had children, the letters that the Apostle wrote to the churches are filled with love. Yes, Paul knew that God loved him, and in turn, Paul loved others. What a remarkable transformation from his former life as Saul, the killer of Christians.
Seek God for the solution to leaving behind an unfulfilled life without love. Yes, I could share many alternatives for changing a loveless and lonely situation. However, I invite you to present your circumstances to God in prayer and ask for His Divine Intervention. We desperately need the help of our Heavenly Father. Not only will you build a love relationship with God, but He will also reveal to you how to give and receive unconditional love, and direct you to fellow Believers that embrace and practice the concept of unconditional love.
Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:5-6
Love God, Love Others, Love Yourself
Bible Reading: 1 Corinthians 7 and 13
God, we thank you for loving us unconditionally. We ask you to teach us how to give and receive your perfect love, and to draw closer to you. Please direct us to those who believe in you and embrace unconditional love. We realize that you may lead us to change the direction of our lives, and we pray for the strength to accept your will. We ask this prayer in the Worthy Name of Jesus. Amen.
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