Give Yourself the Gift of Love is part 2 of a series to identify and eliminate external and internal factors that distract us and keep us from achieving spiritual growth and maturity.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs—First Corinthians 13:4–5
How did love become so complicated? If you watch most toddlers interact with each other, they are happy and will share their toys…if they were taught this life-giving behavior. Intervene to prepare your child for the future: If your child is playing by themselves all the time, you may want to encourage them to interact and share with others (even if they are an only child) because this is a crucial skill.
As individuals differ, so will their definition of love. It is almost a certainty that our life experience impacts the way that we understand and express love. If you are raised in an environment where love was understood without physical affection, then you may have matured into an unaffectionate adult who has difficulty forming attachments. In contrast, growing up with healthy physical affection —such as hugs, kisses, and holding hands —promotes a strong sense of well-being and usually results in adults who are nurturing in their relationships.
Compare your view of love with that of 1 Corinthians 13. Perhaps your definition of love does not come close to the love that is expressed in the Bible. Move forward in your spiritual journey to possess agape love. Strive to have the defining characteristics of love that God created us from. “I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13.
If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. First Corinthians 13:1 NLT
Is there any purpose to meaningless noise? Most of us desire to give and receive the warmth and overall great feeling from being loved. We must discard our prior life experiences and preconceived notions of what love is if the way we love fails to be an exact match to God’s definition. And once we are in total sync with God’s definition of love, it may become necessary to perform The Big Chop, part 1 of this series, for the unloving individuals who refuse to possess one of humanity’s basic psychological and physiological needs.
Give yourself the gift of love by reading and memorizing First Corinthians 13 until you possess every godly characteristic of unconditional love. When we understand and practice God’s agape love, we become like Christ. Even Jesus’disciples failed to understand His love and compassion for others. The multitude of 5,000 in Matthew chapter 14 would have never eaten if Jesus had let the disciples make the decision.
Christ was selfless while He lived on this earth. It is love, the core value that forgiveness, grace, and mercy flow from like a river, nourishing everything in its path.
Love God, Love Others, and Love Yourself!
Bible reading: 1 Corinthians 13
God, thank You for loving us and giving us Your definition of love. We ask forgiveness for the unloving and careless ways that we have treated others. Please teach us how to love unconditionally. In Jesus’ Name, we pray. Amen.
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