Many individuals are attempting to cope with the loss of relationships. Whether the loss is from a breakup, divorce, or death, the impact leaves a heart filled with sadness and grief. The saying, “Time heals all wounds,” is simply not true. Speak with someone who lost a nurturing and loving relationship with their parent, child, husband, wife or best friend, and they will agree that time has nothing to do with easing the pain of their loss.
Jesus, the Lamb of God understands that we require Divine Intervention to alleviate and heal our brokenness. Death penetrates the core of our soul, leaving us wounded. Loss of relationships that do not involve death still produces intense sorrow. We do not have to pretend that all is well. Our ability to cry allows the release of emotional pain, promoting expression of the sting of sorrow.
God does not require us to be stoic in times of loss. In fact, the philosophy of Stoicism is in opposition of the Creator’s gift of emotions. Our tears combined with faith enables us to embrace Jesus’ promise to heal our wounded hearts. In Psalm 147:3, God tells us, “He heals the Brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Jesus wept. John 11:35. Yes, Jesus openly cried. This was a true expression of human grief. Jesus cried for two reasons: 1. From their reaction, even Jesus’ close friends, Mary and Martha did not fully believe in His power as the Son of God. They reacted to their brother’s death by blaming Jesus. 2. The loud wails of sorrow from the crowd and the grief of the sisters, Mary and Martha touched Jesus’ heart deeply. As one theologian states, “Jesus did not cry silent tears. He wept openly with audible sound. It was His humanity that allowed Jesus to feel pain and sorrow from the death of his friend, Lazarus.” Who knows pain, grief, and sorrow better than the One who suffered so grievously for us?
And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper (Comforter, Advocate, Intercessor—Counselor, Strengthener), to be with you forever—John 14:16
The Holy Spirit is only a prayer away. We will receive the strength and comfort to move forward one day at a time. Reflect on your precious memories and thank God for the time that you had together. Pray, cry, and listen to music. Do not allow well-meaning individuals to convince you to discard items or to embrace anger and hold grudges. God is aware of every loss that we will experience in our lives. The Spiritual Team is available to assist us in our journey of healing.
Healing takes time. God does not rush us through the healing stream. We have access to His never-ending comfort. Still, it takes human effort to fight against depression. Push yourself to open the window-blinds to let light in and be certain to make your bed every day. Your appetite may be poor, but remain motivated to care for yourself physically by eating small amounts of nutritious foods throughout the day. It is easy to weaken the Immune system during the grieving period, which places the body at risk for physical illness.
Address your spiritual needs by joining a grief support group or seeking pastoral counseling. Never forget to study the Bible [use an audio app]. The scriptures provide beautiful promises of healing and restoration. At times, the only words that can escape our lips are “Jesus, help me.” Every prayer, every tear, every crying whimper is seen and heard by our Heavenly Father. We are loved. God will never leave us or forsake us. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” Matthew 5:4
Prayer: God, we pray for healing of the many broken hearts. Please send your Holy Spirit to comfort us. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen. © 2021 Sonya Johnson, Faithful Fishers Ministry
Please share this devotional with someone who is grieving from loss of a relationship.